Couples and Relationship Counselling in Godalming, Surrey and Online
It's a unique kind of grief when the person you fell in love with feels like a stranger.
Reconnection might feel like a fantasy, but if you've had it once there are ways it can be rekindled.
Time can cause small but lasting damages that slowly, almost invisibly chip away at trust and safety in the relationship.
The vulnerability that once felt exciting and reassuring, slowly begins to feel risky and hazardous.
Rekindling safety and connection with each other is possible and I can help.
What to expect from your free call
It can feel daunting reaching out, maybe you haven't talked about couples therapy to your partner yet. Maybe you're new to counselling.
It's ok, you don't need to have all the answers. The free call is an opportunity for us all to meet and get a feel for if we'd work well together.
During the call you can ask questions like, how couples counselling works. You can share a little about what has led to you reaching out and your hopes for how I can help. We'll also make sure I have the right skills and knowledge to support you both.
There's no pressure to make a decision before the end of the call. You're welcome to take some time to discuss what you'd both like to do and get back to me when you're ready.
It's just a small step on a longer journey, get in touch and let's see if I'm the right person to join you on it.
I'm not going to crown a winner or take sides. I'll help both of you share your story and listen to each other's compassionately, collaboratively and respectfully so we can start shrinking those gaps that have built between you, making space for connection, trust and intimacy.
Together we'll explore your thoughts, feelings and expectations about what hasn't been working and what you each need moving forward. We'll shine a light on the cracks in the foundations of your relationship and fill them with supports that will help you heal past hurts and overcome whatever the future brings together.
I work with couples and relationships from a diverse range of experiences and complexities. Together we can explore neurodiversity, cultural diversity, trauma and all sorts of differences that have madde you . As a fully-qualified counsellor I am a member of the British Association of Counselling and Psychotherapy, and abide by their code of ethics.
People Come to Me With
a longing for something more, sometimes that's more understanding, more intimacy or more peace. The paradox of relationships is that our closest relationships are the ones with the highest risk, but also the places we should feel safest.
Most of us learned early on that love is conditional and we must hide parts of us in order to keep our relationship. The parts that get hidden, pushed down, they leave gaps for doubt, insecurity and anxiety to creep in. These gaps get a little bigger with every missed request for care or connection, every unresolved small thing slowly chips away into craters. Eventually you're both left feeling unseen, unappreciated or resentful.
This can develop into even small conversations turning into big arguments or the silence of parallel lives that no longer intertwine and the list of things you don't talk about grows until there's nothing left to say.
Relationships are like gardens, they need regular maintenance to stay healthy and strong. When the weeds take over it's a lot harder work than small regular maintenance and sometimes you need an extra pair of hands to get things back on track.
The garden is still there if you're open to learning how to restore it, it can take time to rebuild trust and safety. When you're both ready, I'm here.
My location
KMC Counselling provides in person counselling in Godalming, Guildford, Surrey and is accessible by car or public transport from Haslemere, Surrey Hills, Hampshire, Elstead and surrounding areas.
Wherever you are KMC Counselling offers support near you via online counselling sessions across the UK.
Fees & Availability
Fees
Couples and Relationship Therapy:
£90 per session (60 minutes)
£75 per individual Session (50 minutes)
£140 initial session (90 minutes)
Availability:
Tuesday, Friday and Sunday
Accessibility: My usual counselling room is behind Godalming Highstreet down a cobbled path. The room accessed by a single flight of stairs with hand rails. A ground floor room can be arranged if needed.
Get in touch
Not sure what to write? You could:
- Share a little about what you'd like help with
- Enquire about availability in person or online
- Enquire about specific times you need
- Ask a question
I look forward to hearing from you
Warmly
Kate
“Do you want to be right, or do you want to be in relationship?” Because you can’t always have both. You can’t cuddle up and relax with “being right” after a long day.”
Harville Hendrix
"It's hard to experience desire when you're weighted down by concern."
Esther Perel
“Successful long-term relationships are created through small words, small gestures, and small acts.”
John Gottman