Recent Blog Posts
When you and your partner are too different, is it a dealbreaker?
Feeling criticised or belittled for who you are by the person who's supposed to love you most is painful. This post explores how difference in relationships can become a source of conflict but how, with understanding and acceptance, it can become one of your greatest strengths.
Is Asking for Help a Failure? What Puts People Off Counselling
Not sure if you're bad enough to need counselling? You're not alone. Here are the thoughts that stop most people reaching out — and why your counsellor sees things very differently.
Healing Betrayal in a Relationship – The Three As
Betrayal in a relationship can leave both people drowning in shame — whether you caused the harm or experienced it. This post explores how to move from shame to accountability, and the three core things needed to begin repairing trust after betrayal.
Why Deep Breathing Doesn’t Work for You (And What to Try Instead)
Struggling with grounding techniques like deep breathing? You’re not alone and it’s not because you're doing something wrong. Discover why traditional methods fail for some people and explore science-backed alternatives that actually work for anxiety, stress, or shutdown. Find your path to calm today.
Relationship counselling – How to break out of the cycle of conflict and shutdown
Feeling frustrated when your partner shuts down during conflict? This blog explores why stonewalling happens, how it affects your relationship, and gentle ways to break the cycle. Learn how creating safety, understanding each other’s responses, and thoughtful communication can help you reconnect and build trust.
AI and Counselling – How to use AI to support you safely
AI can feel comforting, compassionate, and always available but it isn’t a replacement for human connection or counselling. In this post, we explore the benefits and risks of leaning on AI, how it differs from therapy, and how to use it safely while protecting your mental health.
AI and Relationship Counselling – Help or Hazard?
Wondering if AI can help your relationship, or is make things trickier? This blog explores the benefits and limits of using AI for relationship guidance, how it can unintentionally reinforce conflict and why professional therapy offers a safe, supportive space to navigate disagreements and strengthen connection.
How Rambling Can Dissolve the Shame of Disallowed Emotions
Struggling with shame from emotions you were never ‘allowed’ to feel? Discover how ‘rambling’ in therapy can dissolve shame, heal disallowed emotions, and help you reconnect with your authentic self. Learn the difference between shame and guilt—and why your feelings aren’t failures.
Neurodivergent Counselling vs. Neurotypical Counselling: Why the Difference Matters
Did you know there’s a counselling approach designed specifically for neurodivergent individuals one that leaves stigma and blame behind and instead offers acceptance, understanding, and tailored support?
In this post, we explore the key differences between traditional counselling and neuro-affirming counselling, and why the latter can be transformative. We also discuss how neurodivergence is often only disabling because of the systems we live in, not because of the individual.
Stop Avoiding Anxiety to Stop feeling Anxious
Avoiding Anxiety can feel like the only solution, but what is its actually a part of the problem. In this post I help you to understand what anxiety is and how avoidance could be making your anxiety worse, not better. We explore the role of body sensations in managing anxiety and how taking tiny steps forward could help you make big changes that last.
Attachment Styles in Counselling – What is your attachment style?
Ever wondered why you think, feel and behave the way you do in relationships? Our early experiences with caregivers shape our ‘attachment style’ which shapes how we love, trust, and connect. In this post, I explain the four main attachment styles, how they show up in adult relationships and how counselling can help you build healthier, happier connections.
Trauma in Relationships: How Unresolved Trauma Affects Connection, Safety, and Communication
Learn how unresolved trauma can impact safety, communication, and intimacy in relationships and ways to begin creating safety together.